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We're Limiting Ourselves through Expectation

इंसान को इंसान नही बल्की वो उम्मीदें धोखा देती हैं जो वो दुसरों से रखता है।

My five year daughter met with an accident while playing in a birthday party, fell down from a ride literally broke her hand from elbow and had to undergo a surgery. Now as my daughter had stitches under bandage, and she being so naughty have to be under supervision almost 24 O 7 to avoid further complications.

Now my husband as always is in extra energetic mode of experimenting is desperate to change the routine of his own and to that of his surroundings that too in our vacation time, keep singing that we have to get up from bed at 5 sharp and must finish our chores in no time to get some quality time to work upon our growth.

Baby as in pain doesn’t let me sleep almost for all night; I did not disturb anyone thinking that why to bother others if I can handle this of my own.
In such cold weather, after taking care of my injured baby the whole night, I got up to cook breakfast and his Tiffin, for my husband. Suddenly a weird voice poked –“why are u going straight to the kitchen better have bath first. Husband uttered this.

Now here the fucking expectations started playing its nasty role, to ruin the situation, I in a very tiring situation was expecting my husband to hold me and pamper me to handle emotional distress for baby; he is teaching me lessons for life. I littrelly cried.
Now my expectations giving me all kind of bullshit thought for my husband, like he is so stupid, is not understanding my situation, to hell with his routine, he is so practical, and blah blah blah

Believe it or not the matter of fact is, in life, we often have expectations that go unmet, and we’re often frustrated because of it. But we don’t have to be.
Here’s the answer: Let your OBSERVATION take precedence over your EXPECTATION, and that’s it!

In other words, go with the flow. Some would say to not have any expectations at all. But I wouldn’t go that far. I think healthy, realistic expectations that are communicated are good to have. They’re something to reach for.

But when you come into a situation and your expectations aren’t met, let your observation take the lead. Discard your expectation in the moment and deal with reality at hand. Then, after the fact, have a conversation with whoever is involved about what you expect and why.

Expectation can actually have a detrimental effect on your goals as the popular phrase suggests…expectation can kill.
It is matter of fact that if you like something may be a curse for someone else, this is debatable, let’s not fall into this in details just will try to explain in a single line…” now it winter, if sun comes it will give you pleasure but of other creature like owl it will the worst day. 

Please remember this forever:-
“There is always a hope and an end.
It depends on us how we deal with them.
We can look at it as a hopeless end.
                      Or
             an Endless Hope.

Comments

  1. Unknown5 January 2018 at 05:01

    Well said.... Mam. If we observe our
    expectations we can save ourselves from many "Blame games"

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